With Father's Day being this weekend, I thought I would take some time to write down some of the things I love about you as a Daddy. And I wanted to share it publicly because I just think it's good to honor people you love. And I don't do that enough.
I knew that being parents together would be wonderful, but I had no idea just how much raising crazy little ones would strengthen our marriage and deepen our love for each other. I also had no idea how many times we would look at each other like "what did we get ourselves into??" For example, road trips where both boys start screaming their heads off at the same time. And don't stop. But overall, this has been the greatest adventure together, and I know we are just beginning.
Anyone who watches you interact with our boys can tell that you genuinely enjoy them and love being with them. You don't view them as a job or an inconvenience, but as little treasures and precious gifts from God. You recognize that you are investing into a life-long relationship with them, and the way you interact with them now and the bonds you form now will bear fruit many years down the road.
Anyways, here are some things I love about you as a Daddy, and want to always remember:
I love how you never say no to a request for "one more Bible story" and you have an amazing way of explaining truth to Levi in a way he can grasp, and remember.
And now that Levi has dubbed the top bunk "dog party time!" (because of Go Dog Go) you two end every day with a Bible story in your own special place.
I love how you make up songs about the boy's names.
I love how you make up songs for Levi about trucks, and sharks, and tractors...and now he thinks they are real songs and asks me to sing them and I have to try to repeat them.
I love watching you and Levi play your version of Hide and Seek/Marco Polo.
I love how you do silly things with Levi like pretend to be broccoli-eating lions so he will be inspired to eat his vegetables.
I love how you make up special little games to play with Lijey Bear. When you get him giggling real good you'll look at me with a satisfied look and say, "I think we're bonding."
I love how you are always so welcoming when Levi sneaks over to your office to visit you during the day. Sometimes you even send him back with a party favor like a hilighter or red pen. Thanks.
I love how passionate you are about not letting our family life move to the back burner in the thick of church planting and ministry. I know our boys can already tell that they are your priority over work.
I also love that when you do mess up and respond in the wrong way (which I'm guilty of way more times than you), you aren't afraid to get on his eye-level and apologize and ask him to forgive you. I'm really, really grateful for that. It's one of those things that's going to be life-shaping for him.
I love how you love snuggling our boys, and you especially consider it a major win when Elijah lays his head down on you for a while. I'm savoring the time I have with him as a "mama's boy" because I know soon enough he'll be obsessed with you like Levi is.
And although I might joke about it being a little unfair, deep down, I love it. I really do.
As a girl who lost her Daddy way too early and still feels the pain of all the years that he missed, I'd like to think I appreciate your presence in our home and in our children's lives a little more deeply than the average person. The nine year old girl who cried herself to sleep so many nights because there was just this gaping hole in my life with my Daddy's name on it is still a part of me.
I'm healed and whole now, but the scars are still there.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that seeing you be a Daddy to our boys feels like I'm getting something back that was lost.
I don't know a better way to say it, but watching them build a relationship with you, and seeing the way you pour out your love on them each day and kneel by their sleeping bodies in earnest prayer at night, and soak up every part of them with sheer enjoyment...it heals something in me.
I know that we have no idea what the future holds, but knowing that my boys are growing up with an amazing Daddy who is living victorious over sin because of the indwelling life of Christ and is going to lead them in following Jesus with their whole hearts is an incredible gift to me.
Our boys may not be able to fully appreciate what a gift you are to them and they might take you for granted sometimes, but I will. I'll always know what the other side looks like, and even though God filled up the void in my life to overflowing, I'm glad that that's not the road they will be walking at least for now.
I can't help but live with the awareness that life is precious and you never know how long you have with someone. So I'll appreciate you for them and for me each day and always make sure they know just how blessed they are to have such an amazing Daddy in their lives.
Happy Father's Day, babe.
You're a really, really good man.
Love,
Your Wife :)